Monday 28 February 2011

Advancing from 17 into 18

No one will live forever that's for granted,right??
But the matter here is not how long you'll live, but how your life will twist and change every now and then.

Ranging from really minor events such as waking up to events with marvelous impact for the rest of your life such as moving into a new step of life are experiences that would mix together and become the base of knowledge you'll come to use to solve problems.

Life is split into major steps that are dependent on a specific change in life both mentally and physically (psychologically and physically if it sounds better), I won't take much depth in those because I'll assume everyone knows them; or lets just do a minor lesson!

*)Childhood: This is where it all starts, children relay on the world around them both to live and understand things, minor events can have serious impacts and grow habits (like waking up early) that could accompany a person for the rest of his life.
**)Teenage: The wildest as many consider it (Personally Adulthood is where it goes wild), Teenagers are now wise enough to know the basic lines of life, they strive for things they've never cared about so much. most commonly things like peers respect, being cool and the list goes on turning the teenager into the classic age to cause troubles.
***)Adulthood: Adults are considered mentally stable and able to live on their own, people get their real image reflected on this era of their life. Most of life changing events happen in adulthood such as moving out, marriage. yet the newest thing is self-control only.. you have the freedom as long as it won't break the law!!
-40's are considered an era in life since people start shifting into a less youthful level, this level can come with great stress too!
****)Elderly: The golden years. all that one should worry about is how they are going to enjoy every remaining moment of life.

For my case here, I've chosen the life from 17 to 18 (Upgraded soon till 20) since I've just reached 18 and can easily say some differences:
1)You are no longer stuck in the world of school (You have the freedom), university has much more diverse things to offer and the only limits are easy,, death and your morality!
2)Your personality will get some of the attributes reserved for this level in life.. you want to be independent, no longer stuck in one place, your life trip has just started and you sure want to build a future?!
3)Epically if not strict before, you are no longer restricted to annoying 17+ ratings... the rates next to it would simply help describe what you'll find.. the only one, again.. to decide will be you!
4)Peak of your youth.. your body will be ready to reach and push the limits faster than before and later.. this will make you (depending on character) somehow power addict.. ego driven or freaking out.. again its just for you and no 2 can share the same look!
5)Peer's pressure is somehow reduced, mainly since you will somehow be split from most of high school friends for a long time of the day (unless university and classes are shared).. this reduction will give you a chance to relief that is soon crashed as the pressure to find new friends will be unbearable (this time.. lonely people triumph their traits)... but the twist won't stop here; peer pressure will rapidly pulse up and reach nightmarish levels at cases!!

I won't be giving studies depending on numbers and such things done over and over and will never be accurate. they teach you that every human being is unique, so why do they make studies that should give a sample that won't exist??
just like school flowchart , they tell you that middle has higher number of students with steady reduction to both sides (excellence and failure), reality shows that failure is far much higher unless in excellent schools that keep track of kids!

The example is easily.. ME?!
In the last day of high school, it was latterly feeling like I've won war. my parents told me that the hardest level of my life is behind me now and everything will be much smoother from now on!
Guess what? Life prove really cunning and its plan came in steps, gradually reducing my will and then trying to deal a massive attack!

The first step in its tactic is a long vacation that starts really great. however, at some point your life will be too static to keep on with it and without the twists school can offer (quizzes for example, force you into a new routine), your life is latterly the same everyday.. maybe you'll arrange things with friends but soon, you and your friends get a virus in will that gives on question--- will university be different??

The next step is to answer, yes.. the first day in university is really the creepiest day ever; its a marathon to get accepted in the university before someone else gets the spot you want, you'll see people getting rejected and their dreams squashed.. this reminds me of the mythological Phoenix, this bird will burn into ashes once it dies...however, an golden egg will emerge from the ashes and give life to a new phoenix, thats just how you must feel.. the ashes are those who lost and you are the GOLDEN egg!!

Yes I easily crossed step 1 and 2, mainly because I didn't have the habit of unplanned life, I can't live for a month without practicing many hobbies and beating goals I put for myself, however don't let loose and become a machine.. trust me its not cool and is utterly boring, once you start it you'll never get out.. life has many things to enjoy so why not to try and at least try most of them??

Step 3 was the real deal!!!
first day in university, you and nearly all other students will come here with nothing but a fresh page on which the future will be written. the moments you'll spend with no friends will be terrifying that you'll want to have every single student in university to be your buddy!
Here is an advise (one I didn't have to use):
The pressure caused by the steps above can max even high school tests, no wonder many people at this age suicide!!
don't let go of your friends for whatever happens, they cover the largest piece in your heart, and without them will be a gigantic gap most luckily to spread despair upon you.. yes maybe you've heard the story of perfect kids who had the greatest marks or highest number of friends and still committed suicide, too many friends are worse than no friends yet both give same results... don't befriend a bunch of people just to say(hey I am part of a gang), that is silly. in fact its stupidest thing on earth, what humans need are people who understand them, help them improve and be there when needed.. not people who drive you further and further into an impost-ed character you are not!!

the life of parties sure sounds cool and all the stuff, but once you try real friends; those things aren't fun unless you have friends to share them and gain their opinions on which you're sure to use in the upcoming life! (I usually use the methods my friends escape awkward situations by using quotes I heard them speaking)

The final level of depression is easily, you are going to study even worse than high school and grit the day you thought its as easy -sure you can have a life of parties and fail.. its up to you- so if you haven't choose the right track you love, then my friend.. indeed its a nightmare coming up!
Don't say - I want to be a Mind surgeon and your heart is perhaps in sport or acting or ... you got the idea!!

I'll be upgrading this note over and over as soon and repeatedly and accurate as possible.. feedback is really welcome here, share your experience.